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The 7-day Reset

The 7-day Reset

Starting August 31st I am leading a FREE 7-day happiness reset for anyone interested in taking conscious action to boost baseline wellbeing. If you hop over to Facebook you can join THE HAPPINESS RESET group for a free daily live talk, some downloadable worksheets and a podcast with special guests.

Monday’s guest is Dr. Michael Steger 

Helping Our Kids Go Back to School Well

Helping Our Kids Go Back to School Well

For the past 4 months I have been volunteering my time alongside an international group of researchers, counsellors and psychologists who have created a guide/ eBook called Helping Our Kids Go Back to School Well: A Practical Guide for Parents and Educators During COVID-19 ©. 

It is designed for schools to share with their parent populations to help school communities protect wellbeing and we are excited that it will be available for FREE on our website.



To see our weekly tips or to download our eBook (launches August 7th)

Leading to Flourish-Effective Communication in Times of Crisis

Leading to Flourish-Effective Communication in Times of Crisis

I held a webinar today for leaders of Canadian Independent Schools along with my colleague Ron Lalonde, who was the Middle East Director of the Institute of Positive Education. We explored the topic of leadership through the lens of Positive Psychology, or as I like to think of it, the science of living a good life.

This summary will explore the communication methods that work best during a crisis. It begins with including all voices to promote agency and buy-in.

Who Needs to be at the Table

Begin by thinking of all the voices to include. Students, parents, teachers, non-teaching staff and community are all stakeholders. Then take a moment to remind yourself that you have 2 ears and 1 mouth- this is also the ratio of speaking to listening you want to go for.


Assumptions are frequently made about what is best for student wellbeing, with little input from the students themselves. Stakeholder engagement happens when you connect meaningfully with, learn from and communicate with parents, teachers, students and staff. Engagement must be deliberate, structured and systematic, and stakeholders should have an influence throughout the decision-making process, not just at the end. The engagement cycle happens best if it includes an opportunity for communication in the planning, participation, analysis and sharing stages.

When leaders are in crisis mode the knee-jerk reaction is often believing that decision making lies firmly on the leader’s shoulders. Crisis makes it even more important to include stakeholder voice to hear great ideas, to address fears and to foster stronger buy-in across all stages. It is essential to keep in mind that the goal of communication isn’t only answers to your problems, it’s touching the lives of others in your community.


We recommend Charles Feltham’s model that requires 


  • You mean what you say


  • You keep your promises


  • You take on what you can perform well


  • You have people’s backs


Watch this clip of BC’s Dr. Bonnie Henry who is a textbook example of exceptional crisis communication thanks to her tone, her timing, the language she uses and her ability to create a sense of common humanity by an authentic sharing of emotions.

The Platform Hierarchy

When you are asking for input from stakeholders, there is a continuum of poor to effective communication.

Any time you can have an in-person conversation it is the most effective choice since you get the nuances of eye contact, body language and vocal tones. The next best is on a Zoom or Facetime call where you can see most of these things. A third choice would be having a phone conversation. And the least effective methods would be via survey or by email since so much is lost when using these limited methods.

If the structure does not permit
dialogue the structure must be
changed.                                                                Paulo Freire

Over the next few weeks, I will be featuring content that helps leaders and educators use the science of living a good life in school and at work. If you want to stay in the loop. please join the mailing list.



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COVID-19 Mental Wellbeing Guide

COVID-19 Mental Wellbeing Guide


It’s a whole new world.

No, really! Everything we thought we knew about working and schooling and parenting has changed (and continues to change whether we like it or not). I am working from home, which is no big deal since I almost always work from home, but never before have I worked from home while my daughter finishes her final year of University from home and my sons learn online from home and my husband learns to work remotely from my office.

I have been collaborating with a team of educators, psychologists and counsellors from across North America to come up with some quick tips to make sure mental health is a priority and to help parents sift through all the “experts” telling them how they should be homeschooling. FYI, unless you were homeschooling before COVID-19 hit, you are not homeschooling, you are coping.
There is a difference. Homeschool is a choice. You didn’t choose this. It’s okay to be confused, sad, angry and scared. It’s also okay to feel grateful to have everyone back home. This is a time to work for the minimum viable product. Do the best you can with the least amount of stress. Period.
I hope you will check out our first tip about checking in regularly. We know it’s simple. Frankly, we aren’t Goop or Martha Stewart. We like simple!
I also want to share this link to a webinar I did about working and educating from home.
If you have questions for me or my gang, we’d love you to hop over to our Facebook group and post them. We will also have guest experts visiting the group for Q & A’s.


I’ll add a new tip every week for parenting. Here are a few more tips for general coping.


People living under quarantine can show symptoms aligned with those of post-traumatic stress disorder. The longer people are in quarantine, the more pronounced the symptoms tend to become.”

To counteract the effects of quarantine-induced anxiety: stay in touch, set boundaries, exercise, limit social media as needed, continue to see your healthcare provider, keep a routine you follow on a daily basis, find volunteer opportunities, and join group chats with co-workers, which is a well-researched intervention to help soothe the symptoms of PTSD.

Watch for signs of anxiety and depression in loved ones. Your intervention can be a straightforward observation like, “I’ve noticed that you’ve been expressing x, y, and z. I think it’s time for you to get help, talk to someone, call this hotline.”

Support employees’ or colleagues’ emotional health during the coronavirus quarantine by creating communities, over-communicating, holding fireside chats and openly discussing your own struggles, not allowing mental health challenges to be stigmatized, and doing fun things together.

Listen, acknowledge, support.